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A co worker of my husband's got himself into some trouble and I am trying to figure out a way to help him through his ordeal. My husband went through some of the same things he may be looking at and with the experience we had, he is going to need positive people that will help him rather than negative ones that are going to drag him back down. I know it is going to be hard to live a certain way when you are used to doing things the way you want to do them. having to do what others are telling you to do. My husband had that same problem. That is where I come in, as a voice of reason. Trying to make some one realize that if they don't do it this way this what is going to happen. I just hope he learned a valuable lesson and makes the right choices from here on out. That is only something he can do. We can't make him do it. Just be the support he needs and hope it falls into place.
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On Sat, Oct 22, 2011 at 12:48 PM, WiccanWarrior3 said:
We are all human right now, whether we want to be or not. Our lives need to be fed with positive energy. True, you cannot force him into changes of the body, mind, and soul, but the best advice I can give you, is show him this good energy, so he can see how life can automatically change into what he needs it to become without his realization, until he looks back and compares it to the present. Hope that helps dear...
WiccanWarrior3
On Mon, Oct 10, 2011 at 12:01 PM, ItsMeLeece said:
I think you're on the right track and I agree with the other comments. In those situations I do a similar thing. I let the person know that they are free to choose which way to go, and that there are consequences for the choices, some good, some bad. As long as they understand what will happen if they make a bad choice then that's all you can do. Of course all situations are subjective and just knowing what is "right", doesn't mean a person will make a good decision. Kind of like the difference between steaming chicken and vegetables at home or going to Appleby's and ordering something filled with fat & carbs. Instant gratification is hard for many people to turn down.
As a side note, I hear people say that they had to do something because they had no choice. There are always choices, they're not always good ones available, but the options are still there. You can't decide for them. I think you're being a good friend for caring enough to help them understand the problem as it is. I hope everything works out!
Lisa
On Wed, Oct 5, 2011 at 8:03 PM, Auntiel Leenda said:
I've had many people in my life in this situation. What I've found is that if you simply ask questions, it leads them to the answer. For instance "What will you do when you attend a party and there's liquor there?"...or whatever is relevent to his situation. Try to get him to think ahead and work it out before hand.